Bad news.
Drama.
And me?
Stalling.
Yeah. This is one post that I have been putting off.
I may as well get it over with.
My baby sister Mary has cancer. In my last post I referred to it as “drama”. I wasn’t ready to talk about it yet. Now? Well, now it is all for sure. There is no more doubt as all tests that she’s had to endure are in. She has non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, cell B, stage one CANCER. Oh. And the tumor that started it all? Umyeah. That would be the size of a softball.
Long story short; Meppy has been sick with a cough since May. Said cough never let up and soon she was wheezing when she laid down flat. Those are the two reasons that landed her a chest x-ray and and a CAT scan. Then her neck started hurting her. And that is what landed her in the hospital on Sunday, July 27th.
I don’t think I can really, truly describe the fear that my mind has experienced over the last few weeks. I don’t even think I can accurately describe what it felt like when I first realized that my little Sister was sick. Sick with a disease that I have seen kill people. I think that the way my body has felt since is is a great indicator of what my mind went through though. A few words for you; Sore, achy, headachy, and just plain JACKED UP! My nerves are truly shot.
Being the freaky overprotector I am about my younger siblings (I only have 2), as soon as Mary’s preliminary biopsy results came in (that said that she did in fact have cancer) I hopped on the next plane I could so that I could stay with her in the hospital. And stay with her I did. There was ZERO chance that I was leaving that kid while she was hooked up to IV’s and such. I was with her in the hospital from Tuesday night til she was let go on Saturday afternoon. As soon as I was with her I felt better. I felt better knowing that I was doing something. I felt better knowing that Mary has NOT lost any of her “personality” (read: attitude) through this. I felt better knowing that she wasn’t alone at night in the hospital when she would kick my Mom out. (Like I said, she has ZERO chance of kicking ME out. Even if that’s what she wanted.)
I will spare much of the gory details. But we now know enough to be prepared for what is to come. Mary will lose her hair to a fairly aggressive treatment of chemotherapy and radiation. She will be sick. But, and this is the part that I have to keep telling myself, Mary is going to live. By the time Mary is done with this she’ll have quite literally kicked that cancerous tumor’s ass. For that I can’t wait. I’ve already seen firsthand, thanks to my stay in the hospital with her, that watching her suffer aint a walk in the park OR a day at the beach. In fact I found that my mind wasn’t the only part of me to react to her suffering. My ENTIRE being actually tried to jump out of it’s skin to attempt to take her place. Okay… so maybe it wasn’t quite so literal as all of that… But it sure felt that way. Oh. What I wouldn’t have given to take her place. I know she is going to be so pissed to read that… But, get over it Meppy. It is what it is and YOU can’t change it. Of course I would take her place. Any of her siblings would. That’s what she gets for being the baby of a family of SIX kids. (Did I mention that there is a SIX year gap between her and my little brother? Yeah. Like I said… BABY.)
Anyway. So that has been not fun. She just got her second round of chemo this last Friday (yesterday) and word came through to me today that she is getting ready to shave her hair off. Apparently clumps of it are falling out and her head is sore. I wish I were there to be with her when she does the big shave…. but I can’t. I guess I’ll just have to make do with the fact that we can always play Guitar Hero online together whenever we want! (I know… that’s a little loser-ish, but it is SO fun.)
Now, are you ready for the good news? Holly and her Bubba were picked by a birth mom who is due to deliver a baby boy LITERALLY any minute. I get to be an AUNT. AGAIN! (I think this makes me an aunt to two girls and NINE boys.) I am SO excited for Holly and Bubba. They have waited a long time for this and I know they are going to be great parents. And oh my gosh… you seriously don’t know me at all if you think I am NOT overly excited to be able to babysit this little man. I am SO glad they live close to me. I LOVE babies.
So there you have it. The Drama. The good and the bad.
I am trying to get my emotions together to be able to get back to my normal way of doing things. Now. If I could just get the drama to stop long enough for my nerves to get back to “normal”, I think I could actually do that.
Until then…..