Nello:
What? I Made WHAT Kind Of Mistake?!?
Good luck reading this post.
It’s a long one.
With no pictures for entertainment either….
I recently subscribed to Glamour magazine thinking that I needed to assure myself that I would always have a seat on the fashion train.
(Read: I’ve been feeling rather frumpy and couch-ish lately.)
And I’ve been anxiously awaiting my first issue in hopes of some great tips on how to clear up adult on-set acne. You know… because my face has been literally blowing up for the last two months and I am absolutely OVER it.
Well, I got my first issue today and I was elated. Elated, I tell you.
There, on the cover, was cute Drew Barrymore. So cute you just want to squeeze her and smack her at the same time for being so damn cute.
Anyway. I was sitting in my favorite chair this evening flipping through it’s fashion, health, and sex advice-ridden pages, while Simon and Helene were playing and fighting alternatively nearby, when it happened. I got to page 269. Article heading: Will you regret staying home with your baby? ~Adapted from The Feminine Mistake by Leslie Bennetts
Please. Before you read on, read the article. I’m not going to summarize it. I’m just interested in reacting right now.
Interesting title, no?
That’s what I thought too. And that is why I read the article that has heretofore been given the award for “Article That Has Upset Nello The Most Since She Doesn’t Know When.”
And I quote:
“I think it’s time to tell women, especially young ones, the truth: The feminine mistake- building a grown-up life around the notion that someone will take care of you- is an outdated idea that could jeopardize your future.”
Before I give the reasons I am upset about this I just want to make it known that I think Leslie and the article have a lot of great points and arguments that I hope are based on real facts. I also want it known that I am not trying to say that I think that all Mom’s should stay at home with their kids. Because I don’t. In fact, if you read this post in it’s entirety you will soon find out that given other circumstances I may have chosen to be a working Mother. That may have been a better fit for our family. I hate the stupid Mommy Wars and hope that this post won’t be construed to be a part of them.
Alright.
Why am I upset?
Reason number one: Because I don’t like my life being referred to as a “mistake”.
Hell. Who does?
Reason number two: I wasn’t aware that I was “being taken care of”. I thought that my family was taking care of each.other.
But hey. I’m just a stupid Home Mom. What the hell do I know?
Reason number three: Because this Leslie Bennetts obviously hit one of my fragile nerves.
Yeah. That’s right Leslie. I’m not afraid to admit that a part of me is afraid that you could be right. Maybe I did make a mistake….
But you know what?
That part of me that is afraid that you could be right? That part of me only rears her stupid head on the days that I am all roughed up after a 12 hour day of having medicine spit at me every four hours, cleaning up yacked up mucus and/or vomit, changing I don’t KNOW how many dirty (read: diarrhea-filled) diapers, and feeding children who seemingly have no interest in being fed. Call me crazy and wishy-washy, but on days like that I get all kinds of question-y.
For instance, on any given “Crappy Mom Day”, my mind can be found doing this to me:
“What am I doing with my life? Am I wasting my time raising these kids? Because maybe there is someone out there that can do a better job…. Hmmm. Tyson comes to mind. He’s really great with the kids. Maybe I would better serve my family if I were out in the work force. I bet with my spitfire ways I could really go places in this evil world. Ugh. Did I make the right choice staying with my kids? I thought I did…. When did doubt enter into that decision? You know…. This really sucks. I know I’ve got a lot of smarts stocked up in that head of mine. Should I be getting paid for them? Hmmm. Why aren’t I getting paid for them? This not-for-profit-work is for the BIRDS! I just got accepted to BYU…. I should go. I could get my bachelors in just under two years and then I could keep going and become a lawyer or an orthodontist, or WHATEVER I WANT to be. Yeah. I’m not that great at this Mom thing anyway. I feel like a failure a lot. I hate that. But look at my little Helene. How could I just leave……..”
There you have it. Just a small stroll on one tiny corner inside my head. I know it’s a scary, bewildering place in there…. But it is what it is.
And I’m not in the least bit sorry for any of it.
I made, along with my parter in crime, the decision to do the full time Mom thing when I was only 24 years old. We made this decision based on two factors. The most important factor was that we believed it would be best for our children if they were taken care of by their Mother. The other factor was the cost of day care. Admit it. It is expensive for a good one. I’ve been happy and settled with the choice we made and I have been resentful and doubtful of the choice as well.
The sacrifices we have made so I can be a full-time Mother have been great. In financial terms, the sacrifice could go without saying. We live in California on one income. Enough said. In emotional terms, the sacrifice is not often a “sacrifice”, but sometimes I do think that my sanity has suffered just a tad. Yeah. Doodlebop watching will do that to you. I just wish someone would have told me. In all seriousness, however, I’m just not always happy being a 24 hour nose wiping Mom. I know. It’s a shocking revelation. I’m surprised I even had the guts to immortalize that admission on the internet.
So why do I keep doing it? Because now I know we made the right decision. After only having Simon for a year we knew he was a little different than other kids. When he was 22 months old we found out about his severe speech delay and his sensory processing disorder. It was then that I knew he needed me more than we needed an extra paycheck. I knew that Simon needed professionals to help him overcome his disabilities, but I also knew that he needed me to be with him before and after those appointments. No paid person could ever give my Simon the love that he needed while going through those difficult appointments. He needed me to greet him in the waiting room after he had been tested and pushed past his limits. I know that to be an absolute fact and no one will ever be able to tell me otherwise. I would love to sit here and tell you about the various other women and men that I met in those waiting rooms who had given up their careers when they found out about their child’s similar disabilities because they knew the sacred truth that I just told you about…. but I would be writing for a lot longer and, as you already know, this post is long enough.
I was young when I made such a life altering decision. I get that. But. I also get that I made an informed decision. I am well aware that I could be traded in for another model. I am aware that in the event of a divorce I could very well be put out on my ass if Tyson decided to be a big fat JERK and forget that we made a deal, a promise, a covenant even, that he would work for profit and I would raise our kids not for profit. Tyson and I are both aware of the impact that decision could have on my life if any event occurs that would separate us. Maybe I’m naive. Some, obviously, all but call me stupid. But I trust my husband with that delicate and scary situation. What kind of marriage would we have if I couldn’t trust him with it? And that is my point.
I don’t deny that there are risks in the decision to not have a career. But I do think it is very sad and disheartening to be shown, once again, that we live in a society that puts such a small value on family and such a huge one self. Yes, I think this is very much a family issue. A family is like a team, isn’t it? A family is supposed to be a group of people who love and trust each other and who work together toward their common goals, whatever those may be. People in a family take care of each other. They look out for one another. And most importantly, they sacrifice for each other. If living a family life nowadays means putting little or no trust in my marriage and it’s accompanying promises, and making sure that I protect ME before anything else, then it is a sad day indeed.
I guess I’m just not crazy about a society where the family is ceasing to exist because no one can trust it anymore.
And I’m certainly not crazy about an article or book based on the assumption that women like me are so stupid that we gave up our careers and paychecks, without assessing any of the risks involved, just so we could be “taken care of“.
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Very well said my friend. I’ve had the same thoughts and feelings too. And funny you mention what would happen should you divorce and it got ugly. I’ve thought about that, too, especially recently since I am now home full-time. I was working part-time while the kids were in school and in summer they would go to a day camp that they love, but this will be my first summer I will be home with them, all day, everyday and I am freaking out. I’m with them right after school until bedtime and then can fight in that short period of time like little warriors. By the time my husband gets home in the evening, I’m usually frustrated and in a bad mood. When he pointed this out I told him to prepare himself because summer was almost here and if he thinks I’m bad now, watch out. BUT…it’s where I want to be and my husband and I came to this decision TOGETHER. Because like you, that’s what FAMILIES do. I’m with ya’ girlfriend. I’m with ya’.
I am angry right along with you. I’m past the point in my life where I get all riled up over the mothering choices of others…I do however get pissed when a decision like choosing to stay at home is trivialized and diminished. I refuse to sacrifice each Today by living it in the fear of what may (or may not) happen Someday. If my husband and I were to part ways, I would carry on. I would support myself in some way. Women do it all of the time. I will take life as it comes. I am not naive, but what I have chosen to devote my life to today is too important to be ruled by a “what if”. If I went to work so that I would be prepared if I were to need to support myself, I would be denying myself (and my family) of the person I want to be. I have no idea if that made any sense. It is super late…or really early…depending on how you look at it.
The Mommy Wars suck, and I hope my comment didn’t feed into it because, as I said…no more judgement here.
That article really made us seem like helpless, pitiful little things…
Listen — let’s think for a minute. There are plenty of women out there who’ve been working their whole lives and yet… when they lose their jobs, they suddenly realize how OUT OF DATE their skills and technological know how truly is.
Life is uncertain for everyone - that is for certain. At any point a women who works outside of the home or one who stays home can face unexpected circumstances.
But, as they say… “In the end, the love we take, is equal to the love, we make.”
Nuf Said.
Thanks for a thought provoking post Nello!
Well said. I was equally outraged at that article. We made the decision that I would stay at home before we had children and, granted it happened a tad sooner than planned, but here I am. And I am COMPLETELY convinced that this is where I need to be. Its not right for everyone, yes, but this is what’s right for us. I don’t judge moms for working, so don’t judge me for staying home, thank you.
I agree with Lori — you never know what circumstances are around the corner. My father died suddenly, leaving my mom with 4 kids to support after being a SAHM for almost 20 years. But she found work and did a fantastic job, even put us all through college. It stretched her faith and she learned to depend on God like never before. There are no guarantees of security in life. I admit I toy with going back to work. But it almost always happens around the time of year my dad died when I get really scared that I’m going to end up the same - widowed with kids to care for and no job. But Mom did it. She stepped up and took care of her children. And any other SAHM would do exactly the same thing.
Hey! It’s been a while! Love the blog layout! You should send a letter to the editor. I’m off to google the writer of that article.
Thanks for the compliment over at Manic’s… I need to check in with you more! Missed the Cool Kelly Nello!
Thank you, Kelly. I’m really glad you posted this right now. I’m 22, engaged, knowing I don’t want to do the nine-to-five for the rest of my life, and turning over the idea of being a stay-at-home mom when I become a mom. It is not an easy decision, and there are no easy answers.
But the implication that moms stay home just “to be taken care of” is ludicrous. I know that if I decide to stay home, it will a collaboration: my husband takes care of the income, and I take care of our home and our kids.
As much as this says about the value we place on family in our society, I think it says as much about the value we place on money. There’s an idea that if you aren’t cashing a paycheck, you aren’t doing anything with your life.
I saw this article, and even not having kids, was pretty offended by some of it as well. I have many friends who chose to stay home with thier kids rather than “work for profit” and I know it’s hard for them a lot of days and I know sometimes they worry about their sanity, but like you, they made a choice. Thanks for standing up for the mothers who make that choice.
I myself graduated from BYU and am currently working full time, but when those little babies come eventually, I have no idea what decision I will make for my family, but no matter what it is, no one but me has the right to say whether or not it’s a mistake.
Good for you!
This is a great post.
(I too went to BYU. How funny!)
I stay at home with my four kids, not one of whom is old enough to be in school yet. Every day is hard, and every day is amazing all at the same time.
This is a choice I made. For me, it was the RIGHT choice. For my mother, staying at home was NOT the right choice–she was a very successful career woman. Do I love her and respect her for her choice? Yes, every day of my life. Does she love and respect me for mine? Yes. Always.
To suggest that SHE made a mistake or that I’M making a mistake is so unfuriating. She did was right for her. I’m doing what’s right for me. I love what I do–even in those moments that I want to send everyone to their rooms for a few hours…hahahaha.
Thanks for this post. It made me stop and say, “am I happy with what I do? Am I doing what’s best for me and my family in my particular situation?” What a relief to be able to say “yes” to both questions.
i think it’s good that you can admit to yourself (and the world) that you do question your decisions. but the most important part to me was that you knew you made the right one in the end. it’s normal to question things, people do it all the time they just don’t admit it like you did - and honestly i admire that fact that you can tell others that you do. of course you know i agree with all that you said. families should not be looked at as a temporary fix or decision. they should and need to be an eternal one - it’s truly sad that our world has reversed this. i think you are awesome for just being you and not caring what others think. it’s rare to find in a friend! i love it
I agree that this is a great post.
And to follow up on what MANIC MOM said, the publisher would love to hear what you have to say (yes, I work for the publisher!). We started a website to talk about this book and the other issues you touch on, as we do in our books—www.EveryWomansVoice.com
We’d love to here what you think, and personally, I am so glad I found your site!
I will have to read it…but personally, I think there are too many moms who are career oriented and that, in turn, harms their children. Not ALL moms, but a lot out there. Sure, the kids might be fine now, but I can name a few families off the top of my head who wish they stayed home with their kids those first few years rather than worry about the paycheck because of how their grown-up kids are now. I see it in my girls’ classes too.
Again, it’s nothing against working moms…I was one of those for years until daycare got too expensive. But I sure am not going to listen to someone who may/may not have children tell me I’m making a mistake staying home.
There’s a lot of negatives about it but the positives outweigh those.
Once upon a time I was a stay at home Mom whose jerky husband abandoned her with a 15 month old to raise. I had to go back to work, I didn’t have a degree and my work experience was not extensive. Somehow I have survived. And, as you know, for the last several years I have been supporting not just myself and my little boy but a new husband as well (who is doing the stay at home duty for now), we added a daughter to the mix 17 months ago and are about to add number three. While finances have ALWAYS been a struggle and will continue to be for probably forever, we have gotten by. What I got from this article is that the time at home with your kids, those bonding moments, those hectic days, those quiet teaching moments — none of that is worth as much as what you are giving up in “earning potential”. I think it is a sad commentary on our priorities as a people that we put the almighty dollar (and our ability to have life’s luxuries)above our own children. Maybe if I had chosen to work those first months of my son’s life I could be making more money now, maybe our finances wouldn’t be so tight. But there is not even one speck of me that regrets those precious 15 months I had to be a stay at home mom. And I applaud everyone who makes the difficult choice of being a sahm because it is far from easy and has pretty much nothing at all to do with being taken care of and has a heck of a lot more to do with taking care of.
Well said, Kelly.
I snort at the idea of “being taken care of”. If I had a dollar for every time I wish someone would take care of me I would be an independently wealthy woman. The truth is, I take care of everyone else in our home. Hubs brings home the actual money. I help make it possible for him to do so successfully. He’ll be the first one to say so, too.
I also might add that my life is insured for just as much as my husband’s is- the max. If something happened to me he’d have to file bankruptcy to pay someone to do all the things I do for our family. Taken care of? My a*s.
Amen!
I’m a SAHM too… and everything you said is true… at least for me.
Kids are important, family is important, giving of yourself is important. Anybody can go to work… but most people readily admit they couldn’t stay home and take care of kids all day. We have a “job” like anyone else… we just don’t get paid or get any respect. I’m hoping one day the respect I get will be from my kids.
My dad sacrificed a lot (both at work and at home) to give us a great childhood, and you wouldn’t believe the respect I have for him now that I’m grown up.
My mom worked outside the home and I still resent it.
Holy Moses! Why does this post get me teary eyed…..you know the answer to that one probably better than I do. I’m jealous that you know how to vent your frustrations so eloquently. Like everyone else said….Well said, sister!!!
Hi Kelly,
I’m a SAHM too - with three kids under the age of 5 - UGH! The bad days are REALLY BAD - but the good days are AWESOME! My mom didn’t work and I had a great childhood - no stress and a lot of fun. That’s what I want my kids to have. That’s what’s important to me - not my financial state or my future earning potential or even a ’safety net’ in case something happens…but that my kids actually have a ‘childhood’ to look back on. I find it very condescending that the article is assuming that we are making this decision lightly. Who would ?!?!
Seriously. I didn’t even look at that article. I read the title, and I already got upset. (I have no kids, so I translated for myself: will you regret spending a year thinking you’re worthless with no job and no friends in Akron while your husband advances his career?).
I think you’ve done fabulous things with your life. You’re raising the next generation - the hardest, most important job that someone can do. Eff Glamour.
Wow. It just floors me that people still think that stay at home moms are making a mistake. Yes, I have a degree (in fact I have several and am currently working on another and mulling the idea of even starting another program after this current one ends) and have made more than I currently make (I do work part-time currently only for the insurance because my husband changed jobs in January and isn’t eligible for health insurance until June since we enjoy being able to go to the Dr when we need to) when I worked full time. However, I have NEVER felt like I gave something up to spend the bulk of my time at home with my little boy. I have very strong feelings about this, but you did an excellent job of vocalizing pretty much everything I’d say. I just feel bad for people that actively choose to work (vs people who really don’t have a choice) over staying home with their kids. I think they are really missing out.
Congrats on acceptance to BYU as well–not necessarily an easy feat!!!
Amen sister, AMEN.
You deserve credit for taking such good care of two totally dependent beings. I’m not a mother yet, but doing working in social services, I know what a huge personal sacrifice it is to put your kidlins’ needs ahead of your own. The life, love, and efforts of a good stay at home mom are something to be commended. Because nobody does it as good as mommy does it!
Man, am I glad I decided to stop by today! You hit the nail on the head. That article made me so totally furious that I think I might have steam coming out of my ears! But I’m also glad to know that I’m not the only one having feelings like you are. There are days I wish I would have gone back to work, but then I see my precious girl and all of the things I would have missed if I were a working mom….and I know it’s all worth it. I do not feel that I’m making a mistake and I do not feel like I am being taken care of. If anything, I “take care” of everyone else! So thank you so much for writing about this!
I have great news Kelly and tell your sister too. I am going to feature the two of you as well as my other commissioned pieces too. I just wanted to share with you my amazing news and I didn’t have your email address.
Yesterday, I met with a local artist, Judy Mace in Tyndall, SD (near my hometown) and she asked me to have an open house at her art/antique shop. My artwork will be on display and for sale from Sept. 1st through the 29th, 2007 downtown Tyndall, SD.
My reception will be Saturday, Sept. 29, 2007.
Starting next weekend, April 7th, she will start selling my greeting cards and original watercolor paintings.
I will also be selling my greeting cards and prints this year at Riverboat Days August 17-19th in Yankton with the Connecting Artists booth down at Riverside Park.
My artwork can be seen at:
http://wetinkwisdom.blogspot.com/
I will send out more details closer to the reception, but wanted to give you all a heads up on it ~ yes I realize it’s five months away!
Have a good weekend,
Amy
Well said!
Mr and I chose for me to stay home with our children. I have a MEd and an MBA. I still can’t make the money Mr. can make - therefore, he works and I stay home. I do all the kid stuff - volunteering at school, homework patrol, the drop offs and pickups and the constant chauffeuring. I wouldn’t change it for a second. We don’t have all the stuff that the other 2 income families have, but when given the choice of my staying home or going back to work - the children ALWAYS choose for me to be home.
You are doing the right thing.
xo
LBC
I thought the goal of feminism was to enable women to have the same freedom in making their OWN choices as men do. But if Ms. Bennett says we should go back to work then I guess we must. Yeah, we’ve come a long way, baby. Give your own gender a little credit! Women have the capability to make the best decision they are able to by themselves and with their partners in the scenario they find themselves in. Lori is right - life is uncertain for everyone so thank goodness women have the freedom to choose at ALL.
Ooooh. A million thoughts and all kinds of steam. A great post, Kelly. Thanks for being real.
We just choose and we live with it and if we can’t live with it, we change our choice. Motherhood is not the only choice we make. We choose every moment of every day and some choices will be good and some we will regret. What drives me nuts is alarmists who have found what works (or should have worked) for them and choose to warn everyone else that they should choose exactly the same thing. The whole drama of it just makes me tired.
This is my first visit to your blog, and this was a fascinating post. Thanks for sharing this article and your thoughts.
I think this article should not be taken as an insult to all stay at home moms. If it brings up fears, allow that to motivate you to prevent these worst-case-scenarios from happening.
I come from the opposite perspective from most of you, in that I’m a working woman with no kids. It’s ironic because I hear a lot of the opposite negative messages from society, like I’m blowing it for not having kids because I’ll be lonely when I’m old, and no one will be there to take care of me. So, the insults will come from either direction, no matter what choices you make in life. It’s up to you have you take them.
I think the message to take away from this kind of article is to just don’t allow yourself to be complacent and become victimized by an unexpected turn of events. In generations past many women did choose to stay at home with their kids because that was one of the best options available to them as a career. Now we have a lot more choices. If you’re keeping your skills sharp, furthering your education, staying poised financially and being prepared for the unexpected, than you’re doing the right thing.
Staying at home with your kids is a valid job and I think children who have moms who do that are incredibly lucky. My husband and I can’t quite afford to pull it off, so that’s one of the main reasons we’re leaning toward not having kids.
Well put! I totally agree with you. I don’t like anybody that doesn’t know me tell me I made a mistake with my life choice. I would go into more but I would only get madder and madder about it.
Hey Nello,
I really appreciated your post.
Let’s just cut to the chase: women’s choices are criticized right and left, no matter what their choices are. Unfortunately, I think that most women’s mags are at the center of that criticism and self-doubt. I have no children — by choice. I’m a devoted auntie and a high school teacher, and for medical, financial, and other reasons, I’ve never felt the call to become a parent. I’m 41, and no, I won’t be changing my mind! 8^)
Your choice to be a SAHM is derided by people who think you should be two places at once. My choice not to have kids at all is criticized…I’ve actually had people who barely know me tell me that I’m “out of touch with my essential feminine energies” by remaining childfree. Fortunately, the criticism has fallen off sharply in the last 10 years or so (people are becoming more accepting of women who’ve decided not to have kids…good thing, because we’re about 20% of the female population now).
All I can tell you is that it is impossible to be two places at once. Moms who work full-time outside the home have to let something go — sometimes it’s enough time with their kids, sometimes it’s their marriage, but more often it’s their own health and sanity (I’ve known some work-outside-the-home moms who cut back their sleep by 30 and 40% just to get it all done. They age 20 years in the blink of an eye and are seriously compromising their immune systems by giving up that sleep, putting themselves at risk for everything from the common cold to cancer. Is it fair to them, their husbands, their children? I’d say no.)
I say this all as a staunch feminist…women should have the option to work, stay home, some of both (whatever their personal situation allows for). Men should be encouraged to stay home with their children and let mom go back to work. All of it. It’s very unpopular to say that perhaps would-be parents should think very hard about whether or not to have kids if one of the parents can’t manage to stay home, at least part-time, with the child until he/she reaches school age. But I’ll say it.
But the “you can have it all…if only your learn to ‘juggle’ and ‘balance’ well enough” mindset, the work outside the home plus parent your young children simultaneously while maintaining your health and sanity mindset, persists. You cannot be two places at one time; that’s simple fact.
As the article says, women should think about whether or not to go back to work after becoming a mother; they should think about how having a child (or another child) will affect their standard of living; hell, they should think about whether parenthood is even for them before taking the plunge. (Personally, I think we’d all be a lot happier, have happier and healthier kids, and less child abuse if becoming a parent were not the default choice…if people were really encouraged to think it through, instead of saying “Of COURSE I’ll have kids…doesn’t everybody?” If it really is the most difficult job in the world (and I agree that it is) — why do we assume it’s a job that just about everyone should do? We’ve got nearly 7 billion people on the planet already; please, folks, don’t have kids unless you want to put the sufficient time and energy into it.
As a high school teacher who sees the results of both excellent and lousy parenting on a daily basis, my hat is off to any parent who puts thought into the job and takes it seriously.
Enjoy your weekend, ladies —
Elise in NH
I think you’ve missed the point of the article. It isn’t saying that stay at home moms are bad and they’ve made a mistake. It is saying you should think about this decision long and hard before you do it. Not every woman is cut out to handle the stress of being at home. With divorce rates being 50% it is a risk to remove yourself from the work world. Is it a bad risk? No one can answer that for anyone else. We all have to decide for ourselves.
On another note, if you crush up aspirin and mix it with Cetaphil, it makes a great, cheap mask that will help clear up your skin.
Also, I love Glamour. It does a pretty good job of presenting lots of interesting, thought-provoking issues.
Easily the best post you have ever written. I’m amazed at how SPOT-ON you are regarding what an absolute insult it is to infer that we made a mistake by …RAISING OUR CHILDREN. Because it’s all about US, didn’t you know? No one wants to acknowledge that these children will actually grow up to be adults. Only then I suppose their opinion matters.
Grrrrrrr. So with you on this.
“Informed decision” - exactly.
Yo Nello
Its been a long time since I caught up with your blog (so long infact I immediately assumed you were pregnant when I read your most recent post about sickness!!)
Love this post, strikes a chord.
Kell xxxxxxxxxxxx
I just think that SAHM and Working Moms need to stop judging one another and unite and SUPPORT each other.
No one mom is better then the other just because she chooses to stay home with the kids or if she chooses to work.
It’s such a middle/upper class “argument” that it makes me ill. There are millions of women who have no choices…and we should all just shut up…appreciate what we have…hug our kids and get on with being wonderful women no matter what we choose and helping those who have a lot less then most of us.
I’ve read the book, and I just posted a review, if you’re interested.
You tell them Nello! I only wish I could stay at home with my 3 children who are being raised by strangers with their values, but we can’t afford it! I feel that is the reason this nation is the way it is. No one will take care of your children like you!
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